PARENTS FAULT LIST

1. The lack of time with children
Today's parents tend to be "tewnty minute parents' parental aka 20 minutes. That is, time with children only for a moment, about 10 minutes before leaving for work in the morning and 10 minutes in the evening after work. Parents' busy work to make energy-depleted, so it is no longer left to move with the child, whether it's playing, singing or storytelling. Not to mention the lack of transfer of moral values, ethical and spiritual in children.

2. The weak bonding / bond with the child
Child's everyday life is usually so much more with substitute parents, such as grandparents, om-aunt, nanny, etc.. Lack of time and an abundance of attention to the child resulting in lack of bonding between parent-child relationship.



3. Guilty parents feeling
Guilt because parents often encourage parents to leave their children overwhelm the child with gifts. As a result, the child used to getting everything without ever accompanied by any demand from parents. So, do not blame the children when they develop into a child who "arbitrarily me".

4. Communication is not well established
Not many parents who have good communication skills, including with children. No wonder that the communication of children tend to stray / done wrong way, such as yelling, judging, booed, ignoring, giving orders, etc.. Unfortunately, the wrong communication patterns like this that children emulate-to imitate. Impact, not the child's self-concept may not be low.

5. Unprepared to be parents
One factor that is not solely determined by age and financial condition. Quite a lot of them are mature age and strong economic conditions still do not feel ready to be parents. Moreover, here too there is no such school or course being a parent.

6. Expect too much without adequate guidance accompanied
For example, children left alone while playing PS continuously without any reprimand or warning to study / finish school first. Unfortunately, at the same time the parents expect the child gets a good ranking in school.

7. There are no clear rules and firm
It should since the kids were little, parents have consistently instill the rule. Its application should not be rigid, but is done patiently, over and over again, but consistent. When enacting any rule, parents should be able to be firm and tough to simply follow the will of the child. Sajaorangtua once agreed will of the child, the existing rules will be broken because the child will break them. Avoid haggling with children, let alone to be goaded by the pitiful child behavior.
If the child is introduced to the rules, then he will not know what to do, so it will cause conflict and conflict with parents and anyone who met in the association.

8. No discipline
Always being too permissive allowing a child to do anything, also did not educate. Parents allow children to watch and play games without any restrictions. Bahkansampai for hours. As a result, children do not know if there are no rules for him. He did not know which ones which are not allowed. So, give a clear and firm rules. Any consequence that has been agreed and communicated to the child should still be run.

9. Parents lack confidence
Orangtuatidak ideally be "lost words" with the child. That is, parents should have the courage and confidence. That children are willing to follow the rules, parents should be able to be assertive. Do not let the parents run out of words and then give up on the willingness of the child.

10. Parents control all activities of child
In this case the parent closes the child the opportunity to have your own experience to think, choose and make decisions for themselves. Impact, the child does not get a chance to feel the failure or success. Unfortunately, without realizing it, parents would often protect children against natural consequence due to the negative behavior. For example, children do not do their homework and the parents who took to do it so that children are not grounded by her teacher. This makes children lose the opportunity to learn to understand that negative behavior will have negative impacts as well. As a result, children are not motivated to eliminate the negative behavior simply because he never felt the negative impact of natural behavior.